Are You Alone ?

This is a repeated question that has been asked again and again. The question doesn’t come once or from people who meet you for the first time.

The question is more often repeated by people whom I met every now and then. You start a conversation, after a few pleasantries ..the same line follows..  you live alone?

My own neighbor(s) would ask ..are you alone ? or you go and visit neighbor(s) for a chat or some work –the same line pop ups in between.

At times the question may come in a different form. Like you start a conversation , gossip or small day to day conversations , about food, about a new lipstick or a new tops or even about current affairs… ..oh, you are alone, that's why !!

If I get up late, the reason is ..you are alone ..so..

You don’t feel like having a big meal ..the remark would be ..oh..you are alone so…

 You do something , or you share some-thing ..the remark is ..you are alone..that's why 

Everything seems to happen because one is alone. 

You are alone so you feel like that or  felt that way, You are alone so you behave like that or you think like that.  

People also mean ( indirectly) .aren’t you lonely ? oh yes, people do feel lonely. I could sense some could be a ‘sympathy’ ..yes no human being want to be alone . We are social beings. 

And another is .oh, your room (house) is so big ! Big ? it’s two room ( 10 x 2 ft sq room ).

I can understand the finance part. The other meaning is obvious.

In metro city, people coming from north-eat India , if I am not mistaken , do not afford to live ‘alone’. Either a cousin , a cousin’s cousin or a friend is there to share the room. That everybody knows. It does ( seemingly) helps in economy , safety and security and of course – community connections. People should stick to their community or the clan or the relatives ! period!

I do not have the liberty to live alone, let alone , loneliness. Quite few times, I do have the liberty to spread myself alone in the 2 room set (mind you this is not even a DDA flat) Some people are certainly ‘curious’ as to how come a woman lives alone ? that too in a city ?.  Yes there is an underlying 'curiosity ' and un-pronounced the message in those statement(s).  

Perhaps, people don’t have anything else interesting to discuss than about “living alone”. Maybe I am boring or they are extremely boring. 

Worst , if one avoids "interacting” the next comment is “how come you are not socialising?”. Does avoiding certain people to avoid "irritating, boring and repeated lines" means not socialising? NO. 

 


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